It’s okay not to know what you want, it’s okay not to be where you ideally want to be – as long as you recognize it and are willing to put in work to change what you can change.
Sometimes I get really down on myself for not doing more, for not being more. But I know what my shortcomings are, and I’m willing to go the extra extra extra mile to see if I can do something to change them. I think I’m having a quarter life transition, not to be mistaken for a quarter life crisis because I’m not lost, I’m just anxious to go HAM!!!
When you’re 10, 25 is light years away- bags full of money, kids, a big shiny home and all the luxuries a young mind can dream up of. And then you hit 20 – a time where you actually believe these things are achievable because you’re in school (to become who knows what), you have a job, your responsibilities are limited to your cell bill and maybe a bit of plastic debt, all minimal, all manageable. It’s really all fun and games – I dub this time period the most honest and innocent adult years you have, trust me you don’t get many.
And then when that part is over – you’re where I am. My side gigs are more fulfilling than my full time gig – more often than not (okay, maybe always) my freelance work brings me more joy than my paid work (isn’t that ironic), and yet I’ve never been happier. I’m at a job that I don’t mind (which is another way to say, I’m not happy or challenged), but I really feel like it’s a blessing in disguise. Because of my attempts to get out of the rat race, it’s helped me uncover what makes me tick. Use what makes you unhappy (or what doesn’t challenge you), to find what does! Use what seems to be against you, to your advantage.
Too often people are unhappy with their situations but facing reality is a lot uglier than continuing on as is – it’s true! Realizing your short comings are no fun, acknowledging the fact you’re not where you want to be is even more unfun.”Denial is the best world to live in!” – says the person in denial. The unknown is scary, totes agreed. But you know what’s scarier? Not being happy. That ol’ tale “Do what makes you happy,” is a lot easier said than done. If I were to take that literally, I’d be in bed all day watching Saved by the Bell and eating oreos off of my belly, while snuggling with my boo & nephew, or some variation of that! I really am a firm believer in somehow turning your dreams into a career, or at least getting satisfaction from whatever job you may have.
I’m not entirely sure if I’ll be successful with my next business venture(s), I’m not really sure if they’ll even happen, I really don’t know if any of my plans will pan out, but I’m willing to risk it all to see if they’ll work because I love doing it, and my happiness is like, so worth it!!
You must change what you are not happy or unfulfilled with, do not waste your most fruitful years (the 20’s in case you haven’t been paying attention) on being mediocre. Honestly, if you’re reading this & on vickyloves on the regular, you’re already ahead of the game! Lol. take the time to think about what you love to do, if you’re truly happy where you’re at then good on you! but if you’re not where you thought you’d be, I really hope you give yourself a chance to find that joy.
The 20’s are such a dope age – young enough to be adventurous with decisions in life, business, career and love, & old enough to know better. What drives me now (fancy shoes, good food, pretty hair, shiny toys, financial security for me and my loved ones!!) might not necessarily drive me in my 30s, besides the financial security part. The 20s are best for experimenting, being selfish, vain, indulgent, and picky! Don’t you agree? I don’t know what my 30s hold, but I’m hoping the choices (the good and the bad) I make in my 20s will make it an enjoyable ride.
So what’s love got to do with work and life? Absolutely everything.
PS. it’s okay not to know what you don’t know. I love you, okay bye. Have a great weekend!